‘When the dance leaves the body,
the body stills in pain’
– JLKEEZ –
MY MISSION
To provide UNDERSTANDING regarding the connection between life events and mental health development, with particular reference to relationships.
To provide true UNDERSTANDING that the answers sought lie in our stories, as do the solutions.
To witness individuals becoming powerful leaders in their own lives.
To support and guide a community wishing to share their wisdom through writing for a society searching for the words they write.
This is me
I am a passionate advocate for those experiencing mental health issues, with a focus on eating disorders. My lived experience spanning many years has equipped me with extensive understanding as to why mental health issues develop.
This knowledge, and understanding, I now present via a variety of platforms:
- Online programs
- Writing – articles, blogs, online magazines, books
- Speaking
- Counselling
- Media opportunities
Each medium incorporates my own healing journey. Each medium provides in-depth detail
designed to guide your recovery toward a life free of difficulty.
I have come to understand that where mental health is impaired, in what ever form, the central
causative factors can be assigned to the wide range of presenting symptoms.
I strongly believe that intertwined within the lining of the illness are contributing relationships requiring exploration,
for held within this area are important clues. From these clues, solutions can be formulated.
When did this all begin
for me
At the age of 15 years my life turned on its head! I had enjoyed success in nearly every pursuit I undertook. I achieved consistent straight ‘A’s’, won almost every track and field event I entered; establishing long held records. Netball saw me excel; creativity was a gift. My vocal ability astounded many. Tall and blonde it appeared the world was my oyster …
However, behind the accolades was a story of school yard bullying and extreme isolation; loneliness followed me daily.
I longed for inclusion.
It was the loneliness and yearning for belonging, coupled with yet to be identified childhood trauma, that saw Anorexia Nervosa become my life for 9 long years, followed by chronic fatigue, migraines, anxiety, immeasurable fear, OCD, depersonalistion and suicidal depression.
This list of mental challenges consumed my days and nights until I was 37 years old.
Breaking
through
Now a mother of two with a strong determination to find solutions as to why my body hurt so much, I walked into the rooms of a psychologist who asked, “Tell me your story”. I finally found the person who would offer understanding, clues and solutions.
Exploring my life events, examining their content, and prising open a door to truths, would reveal a story of heart break, a story of secrets and lies. The link between suffering and story yielded clue after clue; solution after solution.
Against a backdrop of denial I faced difficult revelations. Strength, tenacity, and sheer perseverance saw me break through, eliminating the illnesses that had trapped me within them for far too long.
Reality Therapy underpinned by Choice Theory was the breakthrough. And, unbeknown by me until the close of my time with this psychologist, my story was once her story. Working beside someone whose lived experience guided her questioning is why this succeeded.
Today I live a peaceful life, a far cry from the barely there, anxious, fear-driven person life had taught me to be. I discovered the WHY behind my existence, to move through to WHO I freely am.
Where am I now
From all I have endured, my UNDERSTANDING as to why mental health challenges develop is forefront to all I share. Additionally, I reference a particular learning that stands out from the crowd:
HOW WE RELATE MATTERS
Utilising my extensive acquired UNDERSTANDING, I offer this to you via the platforms outlined above.
